But, try becoming friends outside of work first. He got aggressive with her when he found out I wasnt there, demanding to know where I was and when Id be back. How to ask cashier out for date - Interpersonal Skills Stack Then why the hell were you flirting with me non-stop for days? The thing is that you seem to be looking at this as though these two people are meeting as equals, but theyre not. Get her a card to leave with her - write something sincere in it - like hey, I dont want to make it weird and ask you out at work, but you have a really pretty smile I declined. This shouldn't stop you from being nice to the cashier, or the post/tax office girl. I date women. OP, are you sure neither of these things area happening here? Do the invite to something neutral, and see what the reaction is. Feel really confused like if shes playing games with me. The local pop/rock station was throwing a concert and I had extra tickets and invited him to come along with my group of friends. When I worked retail, a man who grabbed me from behind when I was alone in the store and I told him to get his hands off me. Oh man! Q: What is Lindy Hop? But regardless of where the pendulum swings, they are stuck behind that counter, so theres a power issue. Also, I think waitressing positions in particularor any positions where tipping is involvedare especially good examples of this. Not eHarmony, they discriminate against gays and lesbians. You can only do this is you wont be crushed by rejection and you wont be weird the next time you go to the store. Ugh. Yeah, I used to teach adults and I was asked out BY A STUDENT. Is there a generic term for these trajectories? Think of it this way: can you think of someone you think is genuinely rather awful? Except this is not a conversation about whether its ever OK for a man to approach a woman confidently and in a not-creepy or inappropriate way*; its a conversation about a specific situation, namely making romantic overtures to somebody whose job and paycheck require them to be pleasant to you. I always wanted to date him and ask him out, but I never got the courage until a few years ago when I found out we were both single. (Only bc in my case they were thankfully never true creepers). Shed been going to the coffee shop for several months, and he was really friendly every time they talked, complimenting her on safe topics like her manicure, etc. But ultimately, I cant change who I am nor should I. My main concern was that I didnt want to put this person in an uncomfortable position or jeopardize his job, and what youve recommended sounds like it would work so thanks very much for the advice :), Oops, that was supposed to be a response to and we danced from the ocean. Ive been pondering this exact situation, in regards to the guy at the corner store I go to. I definitely advocate making any sort of social overture carefully and without undue pressure, I just dont know that I can agree with the voices advocating for blanket ban. Since cashiers handle cash and cards, they must have a high level of Im not sure about women. but to me, Id take being asked out as a form of flattery, even if I wasnt interested This crap makes me want to flip tables. Speaking of which, if someone at workcustomer or coworkerasks you out, and you dont want to go, EFFING SAY SO. I went to the same drive-thru for YEARS and had a crush on the guy who worked there. Asking while she is serving you as an employee violates empowered because she is effectively cornered: she can't step away, she has to serve you. By following these steps, youll have gotten yourself one step closer to asking a cashier out! I have to say, I feel bad for the pressure being put on men for the whole asking someone out thing because that was the first and ONLY time I have ever asked a guy out and I got rejected.
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